「讓孩子快樂成長」是關鍵!吳鳳出書大談中西教育

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<p>Rifat believes raising happy kids is the most important thing. (Photo courtesy of Rifat)</p>

Rifat believes raising happy kids is the most important thing. (Photo courtesy of Rifat)

【看CP學英文】土耳其裔網紅吳鳳近日新推出在台灣出版的的第五本書《養出快樂的孩子比什麼都重要》,根據自身經驗,對比西方和台灣社會談兒童教育。

Turkish YouTuber and Internet celebrity Rifat (吳鳳) recently released his fifth book in Taiwan — “Raising Happy Kids is More Important Than Anything” (養出快樂的孩子比什麼都重要).

The book delves into child education from his personal experience and highlights some cross-cultural differences between the Western and Taiwan.

The China Post訪談中吳鳳表示,自2006年來台,台灣人對他和他的家人都非常親切、熱心,而台灣的經濟發展更是一大加分。

Speaking to The China Post, Rifat said that Taiwanese people have been kind and helpful to him and his family since he moved to Taiwan in 2006, and the improving economy is definitely a plus to living here.

他坦言:「我也從台灣人身上學到不少東西,例如資源回收及友善環境的觀念,這是土耳其所缺乏的,我希望我能夠教導我的孩子這些東西。」

“Also, I’ve learned from Taiwanese people, for example, more about recycling, and how to care about nature. This is what we’re lacking in Turkey,” Rifat confessed. “I’d want to teach my kids these kinds of things.”

When talking about one’s childhood, Rifat hopes his children will have more to do than cram schools and homework. (Photos courtesy of Rifat)
When talking about one’s childhood, Rifat hopes his children will have more to do than cram schools and homework. (Photos courtesy of Rifat)

然而,經多年觀察,吳鳳發現台灣的教育與他的文化大不相同。

However, after years of observation, Rifat noticed that education in Taiwan differs from his home country.

「在台灣,我發現當大部分的台灣人在敘述他們的童年時,總是繞著補習班、寫作業和教科書打轉。但是當我講起我的童年時,都是海邊、在沙灘上玩耍等美好的回憶。」

“What I realized in Taiwan is that when most of the Taiwanese are talking about their childhood, they’re always talking about cram schools (補習班), writing homework, and studying, but when I talk about mine, I talk about the seaside, beautiful memories, playing with sand,” he noted.

吳鳳認為台灣人非常友善,但是有些人可能因為害怕孩子輸在起跑點,太過於追求小孩的表現,反而壓抑了他們發展的空間。

Rifat believes that Taiwanese people are really lovely, yet he feels like some are pressuring their kids for more performance as they are afraid their kids can’t perform at school.

他分享了一段他與一位台灣婦女的對話,她當時急切地向吳鳳尋求意見,因為擔心小孩英文不好。然而,令吳鳳驚訝的是,那位孩子才五歲。

He relayed a conversation he had with another Taiwanese woman when she sought him out for advice after expressing worries over how her child can’t speak English well at age five.

他表示:「要在五年學會所有東西是不可能的,這也是為什麼我都慢慢來。如果我總是一直煩惱著孩子的教育問題,小孩會有壓力,我也會有壓力。生活中不需要這種壓力的存在。」

“It is impossible to have everything in five years. That’s why I want to take my time. If I think about education all the time, kids will have pressure, and I will have pressure. You don’t need that kind of pressure in our lives,” he replied.

吳鳳始終堅信教育是彈性的,沒有絕對的解答,和烤披薩不一樣,不是照著食譜走就可以成功。

Rifat has always believed that education is flexible. Unlike making a pizza, there’s no recipe nor an exact answer to make a kid successful.

Rifat believes education is flexible and there are many different approaches. (Photos courtesy of Rifat)
Rifat believes education is flexible and there are many different approaches. (Photos courtesy of Rifat)

「我對教育的觀點就是讓孩子快樂成長。我能夠做的就是提供給他們環境—最好的環境。」

“My take on education is to make kids happy. Creating the right environment — the best environment is what I can offer the kids,” he asserted.

「讓他們參與活動、享受過程,從中學習。或許是爬山、爬樹(都好),希望他們能真正看見這些,成為大自然的一部分。」

“Let them learn from the things, participate, enjoy the events. Maybe hiking in the mountains, touching the trees. See and be part of nature,” he added.

吳鳳也堅持將決定喜好的權利留給孩子,家長的職責僅是提供機會讓他們接觸、學習新事物,而非替孩子做決定。

He also insists on leaving the decisions of likes or dislikes to the children themselves. The parent’s job is to give them the opportunity to experience and learn by themselves, he said.

他分享:「我爸爸曾告訴我非常重要的人生大道理:『如果你想做任何事,你就去做,但若有一天你後悔了,不要責怪我,因為我已經給了你全部的資源以及我的支持』。」

“My father gave me a very good life lesson by telling me: ‘If you want to do anything, you do it, but one day if you regret, don’t accuse me. I gave you everything and gave you my support,” the father shared.

Rifat drew inspiration from his own father in educating his children. (Photo courtesy of Rifat)
Rifat drew inspiration from his own father in educating his children. (Photo courtesy of Rifat)

另外,對吳鳳而言,孩子的國際觀更是一大重要課題。這意味著孩子應該接觸更多國際事務,而非侷限於台灣。

In addition, it is very important to Rifat that kids be led to become global citizens, meaning they should be exposed more to the world, and not limited to matters in Taiwan.

Rifat believes it’s important to give kids a global perspective. (Photo courtesy of Rifat)
Rifat believes it’s important to give kids a global perspective. (Photo courtesy of Rifat)

他強調:「如果你總是只跟他們提台灣,當他們離開台灣時,他們會突然失去依靠,適應不良。」

“If you’re always talking about Taiwan and giving them local ideas, once the kids leave Taiwan, they will feel like fish out of water,” Rifat stressed.

他表示:「通常孩子會向他們的父母看齊,因此父母自己必須了解國際社會脈動,並且和孩子分享這些。」他點出與孩子一起觀賞東京奧運就是一個好方法。

“The kids see [learn] from their parents, so the parents have to understand the world and talk to their kids about it,” he said, suggesting that watching the Olympics together would be a great option.

吳鳳相信這能夠幫助拓展孩子的視野,更能在提及台灣時,促進更多更深入的討論,而非停留在珍珠奶茶及夜市等等表面性的話題。

Rifat believes that this will broaden the children’s horizons, and stimulate more in-depth conversations instead of dwelling on boba milk tea and night markets when they speak of Taiwan.

近兩年,吳鳳根據父親的教誨,以及自己當爸爸的經驗,陸續寫了多篇關於兒童教育的文章。

The Internet celebrity has written numerous articles on child education for two years based on his personal experience of accompanying children and observations from his dad.

他表示:「問題是,如果你在社群媒體上刊登文章,你不知道它會在上面停留多久。所以,我想做成一本書,讓大家能夠隨時讀到這些東西。」

“The thing is, if you share the articles on social media, you never know how they’re going to stay online. So, I want to make it into a book to share with people. They can read it wherever they want,” the author said.

過去幾個月三級警戒期間,吳鳳和他的家人都待在家裡,如同其他家長,花了不少精力線上購物,替孩子增添玩具和遊戲。

For the past months of the semi-lockdown in Taiwan, the Turkish dad has stayed at home with his family, online shopping for multiple games and toys for the kids, just like the rest of the parents.

他坦承:「三級警戒這段期間令人感到非常緊繃,這是第一次孩子們在家裡待這麼長的時間,也讓我了解到去學校上課的重要性。」

“Lockdown was tense. It’s the first time the kids have stayed at home for so long,” he admitted, “I also realized the importance of school.”

During the semi-lockdown in Taiwan, Rifat came to appreciate schools and classes even more. (Photos courtesy of Rifat)
During the semi-lockdown in Taiwan, Rifat came to appreciate schools and classes even more. (Photos courtesy of Rifat)

然而,吳鳳仍然感到很慶幸。

Yet, Rifat still considers Taiwan fortunate.

他笑著說:「對於我們能夠在台灣,我依然感到非常幸運,與其他國家相比也不過才幾個月。這三個月中,我和孩子們有更多時間從彼此身上學習。」

“In Taiwan, we’re still very lucky because it’s just for a couple of months. These three months it’s more about me and my kids learning from each other,” he said with a smile.

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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpf0vbBSBbWO7sKRvOxVnpg
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Website: www.rifatkarlova.com

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